Bob cares for his wife, Patricia and has done for many years. Patricia has COPD, rheumatoid arthritis, spinal stenosis, asthma, some other ailments and also uses a wheelchair. During the Coronavirus pandemic the couple have been shielding at home.

Bob helps Patricia with things such as getting dressed and keeping on top of chores around the house. He also likes to adapt things to help Patricia. For example, Patricia finds using ordinary cutlery difficult so Bob has adapted it using handles from hairbrushes he buys from a pound shop. A small hack that can save money on the expensive fully adapted cutlery that you can buy from mobility shops that they have found useful.

During normal times, Bob goes out and about with Patricia in their mobility car to explore the Dorset countryside. They like to visit old churches and have lunch at ‘olde worlde’ pubs, although this can sometimes be a problem with a power chair.

Although Bob admits staying in because of shielding has been isolating, he takes solace from their garden. In fact, he’s a very keen gardener and nature lover. One of his passions is growing tomatoes.

Bob loves to watch the changes in nature over the year and has set up a couple of nest boxes in the garden complete with cameras. This spring, both Bob and Patricia have taken great pleasure in watching a family of blue tits and a family of great tits take up residence. The camera feed even live streams to their TV so they can watch all the goings on from the comfort of their lounge.

Bob doesn’t feel that what he does is particularly extraordinary but Patricia reminds him it’s because he’s been doing it now for such a long time.

If you identify with Bob’s story, you may also be a carer. Contact us to discuss ways in which Carer Support Dorset may be able to support you.